Thursday, April 19, 2007


Well, I recently installed windows Vista, and to a certain extent I love it, but it has created problems, my printer no longer works, and some of my programs aren't working right.

Anyway, getting back to the subject at hand, the I Ching, and esoteric material, the lady in the third chapter of the I Ching, waits ten years before accepting a man.

If anybody thinks men and women think, or react to things alike, they are barking up the wrong tree. Most men are totally unsuccessful with women, because they haven't got a clue about the opposite sex's mental and emotional makeup. And yes, women, though you don't think so, you have total, complete and total control over social relationships. Many men slip on the rocks of social interaction because they do not know. And often, their social life is damaged, sometimes even their career, beyond repair all because they do not understand the different way in which the female mind works. It does not work to be nice to a woman. (I'm not talking about being rude either, although that is better than being too nice.) At first this seems very strange, and yet, in some odd way, I have over the years eventually discovered a rational for this. And for men, I do recommend the work of David DeAngelo in this matter. He's not spiritually oriented at all, but in terms of yin and yang, male and female, one can see a whole new perspective. Men who are not nice, often seem to a woman to just be playing with them, and how much better that than some guy who just gushes over them, showing no self control at all. Unfortunately for men, something as simple as a hello can be taken by some women as a come on. Many men falter on this level alone.

Well, back to the I Ching, hexagram 31 gives us some general guidelines to follow, and if we understood the original language, I am sure we would have more to go by, but there is something available to us anyway. The general gist of the hexagram is that we should not "rush in where angels fear to tread." Or, in other words, take your time, be careful about how you go about approaching someone. We should not just follow our inclinations at any given time, but be able to hold back. And this works not just in male female relationships, but is a life principle in general. Sometimes it is much better to take our time about things, and develop good relationships, or in other cases, a good working model, before we go on with anything.

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